Inspiration For YO Soul!
It's Ok To Water Your OWN Garden
I phoned a dear friend one day, just to check in and see how things were going with her during her season of transition. Her family had gone through a very trying time that truly tested their faith. As she began to give me an update, I immediatley noticed a drastic change in her tone of voice. I could hear the joy and the freedom flowing from her lips. Listen, for so long my dear friend had been in a dark place, bound by hurt, pain, disappointment, and feelings of emptiness. Feeling empty on the inside makes you feel lonely, disconnected from your dreams, frustrated with your Faith, and out of touch with your reality. As I listened to my friend speak, my eyes began to fill with tears of JOY!! I thanked God for answering our prayers, but I couldn't help but wonder, "What was the turning point?"
During our conversation, she kept referring to the phrase "watering my garden."
Her defining moment and the turning point in her life occurred when she realized that she had given all her water to everbody else; consequently, she was stunting her own growth. My beloved friend realized that she was no longer growing because she had poured everything into her family, job, church, community, and career. So, one day, she decided to start living the life she had imagined. She made her own life, her personal well-being a PRIORITY! While she didn't stop caring for others, she made sure that before she watered everybody else's garden, she watered her own first! I challenge you today, friends, to take a look at your garden... Is it still growing? Are you still watering your dreams? Are you still watering that vision God gave to you? Are you still watering your purpose? If you answered no to any of these questions, you, my friend, need to reevaluate your personal process of irrigation. I'll close with a quote by a woman I admire for her work in the world to heal and rebuild broken and empty people and relationships. When asked by Oprah Winfrey if it was selfish to put yourself first, Iyanla Vanzant's response was this...
“No, it’s self-full,” says Iyanla. “It’s self-full to be first and to be as good as possible to you. To take care of you, keep you whole and healthy. That doesn’t mean you disregard everything and everyone. But you want to come with your cup full. You know: ‘My cup runneth over.’ What comes out of the cup is for y’all. What’s in the cup is mine. But I’ve got to keep my cup full.”
Blessings & Love,